If you’re planning on getting married, here are some thoughts on why premarital counseling can be incredibly helpful for your future marriage:
1) It creates space for good conversation – As you think about getting married, what are your hopes and fears? What makes a great marriage? How will you foster a good friendship? What are your expectations for physical intimacy? How will you grow together spiritually? How will you work through conflict, manage finances, and interact with extended family? Premarital counseling provides a great opportunity to explore these questions in a safe environment, and it helps set you a on a trajectory of healthy communication about what really matters in marriage.
2) It helps you better know and love one another – Every couple is different. There has never been this exact combination of personalities, experiences, strengths, weaknesses, and spiritual maturity. Good premarital counseling should help you know yourselves better – as individuals and as a couple. It will explore how you relate to one another – the good, the bad, and the confusing, and it will better prepare you to love your unique spouse.
3) It prepares you for future struggles – Cultivating a good marriage takes hard work. Many young couples come from broken homes, not wanting to repeat the mistakes of their parents. But while there is strong commitment to staying together, they are often unprepared for the difficulties they will face. It’s so helpful to be able to walk through some of the most common future struggles in advance, exploring how to persevere together in pursuit of a rich and lasting marriage.
4) It is a long term investment in your marriage – It may not feel like much at the beginning, but walking through good premarital counseling is a huge investment in your marriage. It will take a small amount of time (and maybe a relatively small amount of money), but it will continue to bear fruit over the long haul, as you continue to grow in loving one another well.